Have you ever had your heart broken to pieces? Been decieved or disappointed by someone you love, be it a family member or friend? Been taken advantage of or abandoned in a time of need? Yes. We’ve all been there and we’ve all managed to bounce back. In these instances you often hear one phrase ” forgive”.
I grappled with this, struggled with forgiveness, such a big word, such a deep act of selflessness. How can you forgive someone who did you wrong? Accept the fact that you will never receive an apology, accept someone caused you pain, accept someone hurt you consciously.
What one discovers in the end is that forgiveness is the path to healing, and it starts by forgiving yourself. A part of you blames yourself for allowing the deciet, lies, inappropriate behavior, not seeing you were taken advantage of. But true forgiveness is a metaphysical tool, it heals the past and hence changes your future for the better. And just like that…when you forgive you are liberated, unburdened and at peace.
Forgiveness is essentially empowerment, a demonstration of self love.
Though a challenging voluntary process, it is the healthiest path forward, to acknowledge the wound, forgive your missteps or misjudgement and forgive others.
It requires self reflection, to be able to see other’s perspectives, reasoning and behavior from a Birdseye view. To allow your heart to fill with so much compassion that forgiveness is your only medicine, your only salvation.
It isn’t something you do for the person who wronged you, it is something you do for YOU. Though an arduous journey, it is possible because we are designed to heal, we are designed to move forward and we are most definitely designed to love.